Stress and Pregnancy: How Does Your Stress During pregnancy Affect Your Child?

Stress and pregnancy is a topic more and more talked about these days.

Stress during pregnancy is unavoidable just as it is during LIFE! In some cases it is good for your unborn child, but in others, of course, it can be challenging. After all, without it, babies would have nothing to do but lie around cooing.

Talking about stress and pregnancy, it is extremely important that you, as a pregnant woman, understand that the bottom line is to limit the proliferation of stress, not a short time of severely painful emotional upheaval.

For example, if a tragedy happens which causes you a lot of emotional pain, you don’t need to be concerned that your unborn child will be harmed. The baby won't like the chemicals produced by you while under this stress, but he or she will definitely live through it just fine. The baby will be uncomfortable, but not permanently "damaged".

Permanent Stress and Pregnancy

The problem comes when the stress is of a more permanent nature. For example, if you just really do not want to be pregnant, that is a permanent stress factor which is damaging to the baby.

Sometimes you do want to be pregnant, but don’t want other people to know how happy you are to be pregnant. Even that can be "damaging" to your baby!

The feelings sent to the embryo while you are with other people, acting out the feelings of not being happy with your pregnancy are the feelings of rejection, even though, in your heart, you are not rejecting the baby at all.

Sometimes, you don't even know that you truly want the child!

And, of course, you can appear to be happy you are pregnant when you are with your partner or others who expect you to be happy, even while, deep inside, you are extremely unhappy and do not want the baby.

That rejection is well known by the baby, even if the baby's father doesn't know it. That is permanent damage.

All of those stresses can, of course, eventually be overcome, depending on what else happens while the baby is being raised. But if the child is feeling rejection throughout your pregnancy, he or she is starting life already with a major challenge.

The solution to this stress and pregnancy issue is, of course, to put the child in as much of a loving environment as possible, even before birth.

Does the father of your baby really does want this child? Then, he should be around as much as you can possibly allow that to happen--without the offsetting stresses of your rejecting the presence of the father.

The decision of what to do once the baby is born needs to be made as early as possible, especially if rejection is involved. The ideal solution is to place the baby with loving adoptive parents. Or, if the father wants the baby, to give the baby as much contact as possible with the dad throughout the baby's lifetime after birth.

Certainly there are babies who grow up to be rich as a way of showing their rejecting parent (s) how valuable they turned out to be (in the area of finances).

But - if you are like most parents - you probably want your children to grow up being rich because of a strong sense of self-esteem and creative abilities.

Because this site focuses on the latter, it is best to have the rejecting parent have as little to do with the child as possible. Too often, this kind of stress and pregnancy issues are overlooked. Click here to see how they affect your newborn development.

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